Ada tujuh BAB isi buku ini, dan saya memilih BAB Penderitaan sebagai ulasan favorit. Kenapa? Karena dalam hidup, saat kita ditimpa musibah atau bencana, tak jarang kita sering merasa bahwa kita adalah orang yang paling menderita di dunia. Terutama buat ababil jaman sekarang, baru diputusin cowok aja rasanya dunia sudah kiamat. Padahal itu pertanda jika Allah tidak menghendaki hubungan itu, sudah diingatkan sedini mungkin, mungkin dia bukan orang yang tepat buat kita. Dan penderitaan yang paling berat adalah ketika kehilangan orangtua. Ya, saya juga pernah mengalami masa-masa sulit. Betapa terkadang kita berontak pada Allah dan bertanya kenapa harus kita yang mengalaminya, tapi percayalah jika kita mengalaminya lebih dahulu ketimbang yang berarti Allah tahu bahwa kita lebih kuat dari yang lain. Ujian yang berat dan bisa kita lalui pastilah berbuah manis, karena suatu hari nanti Allah akan menghadiahkan kita ke kelas yang lebih tinggi. Yasmin Mogahed, dalam bukunya Reclaim Your Heart mengibaratkan hati seperti bejana. Jika bejana ingin diisi, maka bejana tersebut harus dikosongkan. Baru setelah itu, bejana bisa diisi lagi. Jika Anda ingin mengisi hati dengan Allah, maka segala isi hati harus ditumpahkan dulu. had I not learned and reflected on your writings, I don′t think I would be who I am today, handling the loss of one of my favorite people in the world. I would like to say it was one specific piece of writing that inspired me, but it wasn′t; it was your entire collection. I make dua Allah rewards you immensely, and continuously inspires you and allows you to keep doing what you′re doing. May Allah bless and protect your loved ones. Please make dua for my father. —Aala I would like to extend my gratitude to you, for changing my life completely, Allah bless you dear. I was going through terrible phase of my life, darkness, depression, hollowness and negativity was all over me. Then I stumbled upon your articles. Enlightened I am now! Alhamadulillah. Thank you and keep writing as Allah ″the Great″ has blessed you with this quality. May Allah accept all duaa′s (supplications) I′m making for you ….actually this the only one thing I can say, because no words are enough! —Maryam I. Your words hit me so hard I had to slow down whilst reading and breathe. I always took pride in not being superficial, in not being materialistic all the while depending on people I loved to make me happy. And when I wasn't following Yasmin's blog or was aware of her writings until I noticed her name a lot on Facebook & the latest RIS Conference in Canada. Tak ada yang sulit jika kau mencarinya kepada Tuhanmu. Tak ada yang mudah jika kau mencarinya pada dirimu sendiri. (hlm. 126)

Bencana jenis apa pun tidaklah sulit untuk ditanggung karena bencana itu sendiri berat. Ukuran kemudahan atau kesulitan dalam kesukaran hidup pada timbangan yang berbeda –timbanganyang tak kasatmata. Apa pun yang kita hadapi dalam hidup akan terasa mudah atau sulit, bukan karena itu mudah atau sulit. Kemudahan atau kesulitan hanya didasarkan pada tingkat pertolongan Ilahi. Tidak ada, tidak ada yang mudah, kecuali Allah memudahkannya bagi kita. Baik itu kemacetan lalu lintas. Terluka akibat besetan kertas. Tidak ada yang sulit jika Allah memudahkannya bagi kita. Entah itu sakit, mati, dilempar ke dalam api, atau disiksa oleh seorang tiran. That broken heart and that pain are lessons and signs for us. They are warnings that something is wrong. They are warnings that we need to make a change. Just like the pain of being burned is what warns us to remove our hand from the fire, emotional pain warns us that we need to make an internal change. We need to detach. Pain is a form of forced detachment. Like the loved one who hurts you again and again and again, the more dunya hurts us, the more we inevitably detach from it. The more we inevitably stop loving it. And pain is a pointer to our attachments. That which makes us cry, that which causes us the most pain is where our false attachments lie. And it is those things which we are attached to as we should only be attached to Allah which become barriers on our path to God. But the pain itself is what makes the false attachment evident. The pain creates a condition in our life that we seek to change, and if there is anything about our condition that we don’t like, there is a divine formula to change it. God says: “Verily never will God change the condition of a people until they change what is within themselves.” (Qur’an, 13:11) After years of falling into the same pattern of disappointments and heartbreak, I finally began to realize something profound. I had always thought that love of dunya meant being attached to material things. And I was not attached to material things. I was attached to people. I was attached to moments. I was attached to emotions. So I

Reclaim Your Heart is about finding that moment when everything stops and suddenly looks different. It is about finding your own awakening. And then returning to the better, truer, and freer version of yourself. WHY DO PEOPLE HAVE TO LEAVE EACH OTHER? When I was 17 years old, I had a dream. I dreamt that I was sitting inside a masjid and a little girl walked up to ask me a question. She asked me, “Why do people have to leave each other?” The question was a personal one, but it seemed clear to me why the question was chosen for me. I was one to get attached. Ever since I was a child, this temperament was clear. While other children in preschool could easily recover once their parents left, I could not. My tears, once set in motion, did not stop easily. As I grew up, I learned to become attached to everything around me. From the time I was in first grade, I needed a best friend. As I got older, any fall-out with a friend shattered me. I couldn’t let go of anything. People, places, events, photographs, moments— even outcomes became objects of strong attachment. If things didn’t work out the way I wanted or imagined they should, I was devastated. And disappointment for me wasn’t an ordinary emotion. It was catastrophic. Once let down, I never fully recovered. I could never forget, and the break never mended. Like a glass vase that you place on the edge of a table, once broken, the pieces never quite fit again. However the problem wasn’t with the vase, or even that thought that the love of dunya just did not apply to me. What I didn’t realize was that people, moments, emotions are all a part of dunya. What I didn’t realize is that all the pain I had experienced in life was due to one thing and one thing only: love of dunya. As soon as I began to have that realization, a veil was lifted from my eyes. I started to see what my problem was. I was expecting this life to be what it is not, and was never meant to be: perfect. And being the idealist that I am, I was struggling with every cell in my body to make it so. It had to be perfect. And I would not stop until it was. I gave my blood, sweat, and tears to this endeavor: making the dunya into jannah. This meant expecting people around me to be perfect. Expecting my relationships to be perfect. Expecting so much from those around me and from this life. Expectations. Expectations. Expectations. And if there is one recipe for unhappiness it is that: expectations. But herein lay my fatal mistake. My mistake was not in having expectations; as humans, we should never lose hope. The problem was in *where* I was placing those expectations and that hope. At the end of the day, my hope and expectations were not being placed in God. My hope and expectations were in people, relationships, means. Ultimately, my hope was in this dunya rather than Allah. And so I came to realize a very deep Truth. An ayah began to cross my mind. It was an ayah I had heard before, but for the first time I realized that it was actually describing Dalam syahadat kita mengakui secara verbal dan dilakukan dengan amal nyata bahwa Allah adalah satu-satunya objek penyembahan, pengabdian, cinta, rasa takut, dan pengharapan. Dengan begitu maka pemisahan dengan dunia akan tercapai. Dengan shaum kita akan dipaksa untuk melepaskan diri dari kebutuhan fisik, keinginan dan kesenangan kita. Maka dengan hal tersebut, rohani akan lebih tertata. pathological extent. It is something that if we even sense is drifting away, we will desperately pursue. We chase it because losing an object of attachment causes complete devastation, and the severity of that devastation is proportional to the degree of attachment. These attachments can be to money, our belongings, other people, an idea, physical pleasure, a drug, status symbols, our careers, our image, how others view us, our physical appearance or beauty, the way we dress or appear to others, our degrees, our job titles, our sense of control, or our own intelligence and rationality. But until we can break these false attachments, we cannot empty the vessel of our heart. And if we do not empty that vessel, we cannot truly fill it with Allah. This struggle to free one’s heart from all false attachments, the struggle to empty the vessel of the heart, is the greatest struggle of earthly life. That struggle is the essence of tawheed (true monotheism). And so you will see that, if examined deeply, all five pillars of Islam are essentially about and enable detachment: Shahada (Declaration of faith): The declaration of faith is the verbal profession of the very detachment we seek to achieve: that the only object of our worship, ultimate devotion, love, fears, and hope is God. And God alone. To succeed at freeing oneself from all other attachments, except the attachment to the Creator, is the truest manifestation of tawheed.

Reclaim your heart, selain self-help, adalah panduan perjalanan hati dalam membebaskan diri dari jebakan kehidupan, untuk menemukan makna hidup sejati. Buku ini, tentang apa yang harus kita lakukan ketika terjebak dalam badai kehidupan; tentang bagaiman menjaga hati agar kita tak tenggelam dalam samudra dunia. Potensi manusia untuk melakukan kejahatan keji terhadap satu sama lain merupakan kebenaran yang menyedihkan tentang hidup ini. Namun, ada banyak hal yang sungguh diberkahi. Sebagian besar tidak harus menghadapi sejenis musibah yang dialami orang lain sepanjang waktu. Namun, ada segelincir yang mungkin pernah mengatakan bahwa kita tidak pernah terluka oleh tangan orang lain dengan cara apa pun. Jadi, meskipun mayoritas tidak akan pernah mengetahui seperti apa rasanya mati kelaparan atau berdiri tak berdaya saat menyaksikan rumah kita hancur, sebagian besar akan mengetahui apa artinya menangis hati yang terluka.My love for Allah has grown so much. May Allah bless her and help her to inspire even more people insaAllah. Yasmin Mogahed has a significant online following, particularly on social media, where she regularly shares her insights and reflections on self-improvement, spiritual growth, and emotional healing through Islamic spirituality. She is considered to be one of the most influential Muslim women of her generation, and her work has inspired countless people around the world. Karenanya, seperti yang dikatakan oleh Yasmin bahwa hati adalah buku yang terbuka. Jangan sampai salah mengisi hati, karena mengisi hati dengan Allah sudah cukup. Sangat cukup. Tidak akan ada kesedihan yang melingkupi hari kita. Karena Allah akan memberikan yang terbaik bagi hamba-Nya. Sebagai akhir, saya tuliskan quote yang menyentuh hati dari Yasmin.

Salah (5 Daily Prayers): Five times a day we must pull away from the dunya to focus on our Creator and ultimate purpose. Five times a day, we detach ourselves from whatever we are doing of worldly life, and turn to God. Prayer could have been prescribed only once a day or week or all five prayers could have been done at one time each day, but it is not. The prayers are spread throughout the day. If one keeps to their prayers at their specified times, there is no opportunity to get attached. As soon as we begin to become engrossed in whatever dunya matter we’re involved in (the job we’re doing, the show we’re watching, the test we’re studying for, the person we can’t get off our mind), we are forced to detach from it and turn our focus to the only true object of attachment. Siyam (Fasting): Fasting is all about detachment. It is the detachment from food, drink, sexual intimacy, vain speech. By restraining our physical self, we ennoble, purify, and exalt our spiritual self. Through fasting we are forced to detach ourselves from our physical needs, desires, and pleasures. Zakat (Charity): Zakat is about detaching ourselves from our money and giving it for the sake of God. By giving it away, we are forced to break our attachment to wealth. Hajj (Pilgrimage): Hajj is one of the most comprehensive and profound acts of detachment. A pilgrim leaves behind everything in his life. He gives up his family, his home, his Barang siapa yang ingkar kepada thaghut dan beriman kepada Allah maka sesungguhnya dia telah berpegang kepada buhul tali yang amat kuat yang tidak akan putus. Dan Allah Maha Mendengar lagi Maha Mengetahui. The purpose of the glorious sun, first fallen snow, crescent moons and breathtaking oceans is not just to decorate this lonely planet. The purpose is far deeper than that. The purpose is as Allah told us in the Qur’an: “Indeed, in the creation of the heavens and the earth and the alternation of the night and the day are signs for those of understanding.” “(Those) who remember Allah while standing or sitting or [lying] on their sides and give thought to the creation of the heavens and the earth, [saying], “Our Lord, You have not created all of this without a purpose. Exalted is You [above such a thing]; then protect us from the punishment of the Fire.” (Qur’an, 3:190-191) All this beauty was created as a sign—but one that can only be understood by a select group: those who reflect (think, understand, use their intellect) and remember God in every human condition (standing, sitting, lying down). So, even the sunset must be looked through. Even there, we cannot lose ourselves. We must look beyond even that DEDICATION “This book is dedicated, in its entirety, to the One who has raised me even before I was in my mother’s womb. It is dedicated to the One who has taught me, inspired me and guided me throughout my life. I dedicate this humble endeavor to God, and I only pray that in spite of my weakness, it may be accepted, and to my family who has supported me throughout the journey.” state consumed everything. It became the whole world, past and present, the entire universe was bad for that moment. Because it became my entire universe, I could see nothing outside of it. Nothing else existed for that moment. If you wronged me today, it was because you no longer cared about me—not because this was one moment of a string of infinite moments which happened to be tinted that way, or because you and I and this life just aren’t perfect. What I was experiencing or feelings at that instant replaced context, because it replaced my entire vision of the world. I think in our experiential nature, some of us maybe especially susceptible to this. Perhaps that is the reason we can fall prey to the “I’ve never seen good from you” phenomenon which the Prophet (peace be upon him) referred to in his hadith. Perhaps some of us say or feel this way because at that moment, experientially we really haven’t seen good, because our feeling at that instant replaces, defines and becomes everything. Past and present becomes rolled up into one experiential moment. But, the true realization that nothing is complete in this life transforms our experience of it. We suddenly stop being consumed by moments. In the understanding that nothing is limitless here, that nothing here is kamil (perfect, complete), Allah enables us to step outside of moments and see them for what they are: not universes, not reality,EMPTYING THE VESSEL Before you can fill any vessel, you must first empty it. The heart is a vessel. And like any vessel, the heart too must be emptied—before it can be filled. One can never hope to fill the heart with God, so long as that vessel is full of other than Him subhanahu wa ta`ala (exalted is He). To empty the heart does not mean to not love. On the contrary, true love, as God intended it, is purest when it is not based on a false attachment. The process of first emptying the heart can be found in the beginning half of the shahada (declaration of faith). Notice that the declaration of faith begins with a critical negation, a crucial emptying. Before we hope to reach true tawheed (true monotheism), before we can assert our belief in the one Lord, we first assert: “la illaha” (there is no illah). An illah is an object of worship. But it is imperative to understand that an illah is not just something we pray to. An illah is what we revolve our life around, what we obey and what is of utmost importance to us—above all else. It is something that we live for—and cannot live without. So every person—atheist, agnostic, Muslim, Christian, Jew—has an illah. Everyone worships something. For most people, that object of worship is something from this worldly life, dunya. Some people worship wealth, some worship status, some worship fame, some worship their