This game can be practiced with anyone you feel comfortable sharing simple touch with, such as a friend or family member. Equally, you may wish to explore it with a partner or lover, in which case you might want to extend the touch to include other parts of the body.

Perhaps I’m attracted to John, and would enjoy touching his leg for that reason (the touch is for me).

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In these practices, you’ll discover that the Art of Giving includes knowing your own limits so you can be more generous within those limits, and not give beyond your capacity. Understand two ways to receive and two ways to give and feel the joy of each of these four possibilities for interaction For me, the take/allow dynamic is much harder than the serve/accept one. To be comfortable in that dynamic with someone in a sexual context, I have to have built up a lot of trust in myself as well as in the other person. I need to trust that we both have the ability to say ‘stop’ if something doesn’t feel great in the ‘allow’ position. The ‘take’ position it is all about feeling like I understand the boundaries and limits so that I can honour them; it also requires a tonne of aftercare for me. to create the world we want to live in, where people are connected to self, others and the earth. Our Values

A weekend spent with Corinne Diachuk, Katie Spataro and the Wheel of Consent is essential for people who want to dedicate themselves to somatic sex education or sexological bodywork. They are, first of all, perfectly matched to engage with people who have diverse learning styles, making sure that everyone in the group feels welcome, has fun and learns a lot. But they also approach the four quadrants of the wheel in a way that evolves beautifully and naturally for all the participants so that by the end of the workshop you’re well versed in the meaning of touch and able to hone in on the most valuable learning of the experience: “who is this touch for?” In my own somatic sex education practice, I begin every client session with exercises, games and experiences based on the Wheel, Corinne’s and Katie’s core work. That work has proved to be deeply meaningful for me, my clients and even my lovers as I have applied these learnings to the practice of human touch in my life.”– Mindful Pleasure Practice Nicolas RevelesThis means we will connect with moments where we haven’t been able to care for our autonomy or respect another’s. There are also some questions which might originate from any of quadrants, e.g.“Can we try something new?” or“Can we stop now?”

The Wheel Of Consent allows you to understand the crucial part of any exchange: who it is for. It allows you to answer this key question:The process is never about pushing through and trying to like something you don’t like; it’s about learning to trust yourself and be true to yourself. All of this creates ease, clarity, and confidence. Who is it for? This transformative modality increases our awareness, enabling more authentic relationships centered in safety, clarity, and ease. Perhaps I sense John is upset and in need of some physical reassurance, but I know he has difficulty asking for that himself, so I initiate the offer (the touch is for John). Identify abusive behaviours and attitudes in relationship – aspects of relating that are outside of the Wheel of Consent.